I’ve had a kidney problem since 2008 now, so I believe I have a pretty good idea of what is wrong with this kidney and possibly what could potentially be a solution. I say ‘potentially’ because it’s a revolving solution.
For years now I have had to learn to talk openly about my health challenges. I was reminded last week why I’ve been so discreet, maybe not discreet but not that openly sharing.
I’ve just been going through a series of tests recently and after a strenuous visit with a fairly new urologist- story for another day!
So after a couple of calls which went unanswered – from a couple of friends and colleagues, I decided to jot down a text message which I sent to a few of my beloved friends. Just an outline of the feedback from the urologist and some of the treat options he was suggesting.
Immediately after sending this text, I was inundated with solutions from these newly qualified doctors! Who happen to know which option I should be taking…
Here I am reading these messages and thinking I have not even applied my mind on my conversation with the urologist! In fact after the news I just went home, made a conscious decision not to apply my mind on what my next step is going to be. I got home and sat in front of the tv, staring absently at it…
I wonder really why is it that people cannot just receive information and come up with an appropriate response like ‘I’m sure you are going to be fine’; ‘is there something you’d like me to do for you’ or ‘I’ll pray for you’….instead of offering you solutions they do not even understand themselves!
So I found myself asking one of my friends “so what are the side effects of this surgical procedure” and she quickly said “yho friend, how am I supposed to know?” This is a person who a few minutes ago was telling me to go with the surgical procedure option.
Alas, all I need from my friends is from them to be my friends, be supportive….and NOT become specialists urologists.